Word to Wives
"A woman can forgive a man
'Most anything," my mother stated.
"If he just asks. She even can
Forget, sometimes. But if she's fated
For happiness, she'll have to learn
How to forgive the little blunders
Men make, unknowing, that sting and burn
A woman's heart until she wonders
If he's got sense at all. Forgiving
A man because he doesn't know
He needs forgiveness, takes good living
And loving. Women do it, though.
The wise don't mention it. Men look driven
At being told they've been forgiven."
Jane Merchant from halfway up the sky 1957
I hope my readers understand that if there's any preaching going on here, it is to myself!
This poem is typical of Southern women of days gone by. I'm not saying that she's right or wrong, and certainly not in every case. I do know that I wish I'd read it before I got married. Why? Because men sometimes don't have good sense! I wish I had not been so sensitive to small hurts--"little blunders."
Maybe Jane Merchant's mother's advice could make for happier marriages...or longer ones.
What do you think?